It’s Gonna Hurt, But It Won’t Kill You

An excerpt from the book… It’s Gonna Hurt, But It Won’t Kill You

“You think your pain and your heartbreak are unprecedented in the history of the world, but then you read. It was books that taught me that the things that tormented me most were the very things that connected me with all the people who were alive, who had ever been alive.”

― James Baldwin

I found myself yearning to be loved, to be noticed and be remembered. I let go of my ego in order to find wholeness. I allowed the tears to come as they desired. I allowed myself to express each of my emotions. My experiences had already taken me to a place I had never been before, so I knew I was in a position where it was mandatory for me to be transparent and fully present. Otherwise, I ran the risk of not learning the most important lesson of this period, which is to love. In fact, the most important thing you can do at this moment is to love yourself unconditionally. When you hear about unconditional love, more often than not, it’s about loving other people. When you give this level of love to yourself, you learn to love your flaws. You forgive yourself. You see the importance of working on yourself. You give yourself the extra room to mess up, so you can learn and become the version of you that recognizes this journey is all about growth through each of your experiences. It allows you to love others in a very special way.

At some point in your life, you’ll come across a situation that challenges everything you believe about the world. When you face that crossroads, there is always a huge lesson that is meant to shape how you move forward. The question you have to ask yourself is, “Are you at the crossroads right now?” Have you gone through enough in your life to motivate you to make the change necessary to be the person you desire to be? We don’t typically get to where we desire to go in life simply because we want to. We get there because we are ready and willing to do the work required of us to make that change. Have you suffered enough in this current form to be the catalyst for the dramatic shift you desire? Have you experienced enough pain to motivate you to commit to the work? Pain is not required to have discipline, but it is often the catalyst to change.

Whatever brought you to the place you are right now is in no way meant to kill you. This moment is meant to teach you, to strengthen you, to catapult you to your destiny. Can you commit to the work? Can you truly commit to yourself? In the darkness, we often find ourselves questioning it all. We question why we are where we are. We question ourselves. We question what all of this means. In this life, we can answer those questions in perpetuity since we have the ability to change our lives at any moment. The choice we have to make is to intentionally choose our destiny.  It is rare to get the opportunity to choose our pain, but we can always choose how we respond to pain. When life attempts to beat you down, those moments are meant to serve you. They might hurt, but don’t let it kill you. Your life depends on it.

As always, remember . . .

No matter what happens in your life, no matter how tough it gets…

It’s gonna hurt, but it won’t kill you.

-TK

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